Personal Reinvention 101

November 28, 2012

Over the course of life most of us will find ourselves at a point (at least once) where we, whether out of necessity or desire, need or want to start over again.  

Wipe the slate clean.  

Declare a “do-over.”  

Take an off-ramp from the path we’re on, and change routes, so we can arrive at a different destination than the one to which we are currently headed.   

Through personal experience and application, I’ve learned it’s quite possible to do so.  This belief is so deeply rooted in my spirit, that I’ve made it a major focus to help others identify and overcome whatever obstacles are hindering them from realizing their dreams.

 “Follow Your Passion! Pursue Your Purpose! Become the Person You Know You Were Born to Be!”  is my basic message to my clients, and for that matter, everyone I meet. 

There is no reason to lead an unfulfilled life.  

There is no glory to be gained by continuing to feel unhappy or stuck in an unhealthy, stagnant situation. 

As my father use to say, “Where there is life, there is hope.”   It’s never too late to start over, change your course, and start taking steps toward becoming the person you know in your heart you were meant to be!

The process doesn’t necessarily happen overnight but it really isn’t all that complicated.  Like any journey, it begins with one step.  The first being, deciding what you want to change.  The next, is to do something, anything, that qualifies as movement (even if a very small one) in the right direction and continue to build on it daily.

Do you want to change?

Would you like to take control of your life?

Are you restless, unsatisfied, or weary, of the way things currently are?

What will you do today to initiate the process of change? 

How will you turn yourself around and head in the right direction?

Think about it.  Come up with a plan.  

And remember, if you get stuck, I am here to help!  

It’s what I do. 

Blessings!

Becky J. Taylor

Bold New Day! LLC

http://www.boldnewday.com

“Follow Your Passion!  Pursue Your Purpose!

Become the Person You Know You Were Born to Be!” 

 

 

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What’s Stopping You?

January 5, 2011

“Go! What’s stopping you?” is the slogan used by a major airline here in the U.S.  While this question is written to inspire people to fly with their particular company, it provides good food for thought for us all.

What’s stopping you from living the life you know you could be living?  What keeps you from chasing (and catching) your dreams?

Fear of failure?

Lack of belief in yourself?

The poor economy?

Most of us could legitimately claim at least one reason for not whole-heartedly pursuing our dreams, but if we allow those things to hold us back, we will eventually be left with nothing but a long list of “what could have been.”

As the airline motto implies, it’s time to leave all excuses behind and start moving forward in the direction of your dreams. Start now!   Instead of focusing on the reasons why you can’t, make a list of all the reasons you should and can, and redirect your thoughts toward those instead.

At first, this may take some conscious effort on your part, but aren’t your dreams worth it?

STOP complaining and rationalizing away your success.

GO in the direction of your dreams!

And don’t give up until you see those dreams come true!

God Bless!

Coach Becky J. Taylor

Bold New Day! LLC

Personal Development Coaching for Women

http://www.boldnewday.com

Follow Your Passion!  Pursue Your Purpose!

Become the Person You Know You Were Born to Be!

 

Coach Becky J. Taylor (Bold New Day! LLC) specializes in Personal Development Coaching for Women, based on Christian principles. She is available  for personal coaching, group coaching, face to face or phone coaching sessions, speaking engagements, women’s events, and workshops anywhere in the continental United States. http://www.boldnewday.com

Sailing Into Sunshine

July 28, 2010

While enjoying a Caribbean cruise a few years back, our family was particularly looking forward to spending a day on one of the islands owned by the cruise line, when the Captain made an announcement.

“This is your Captain speaking” the voice over the loud speaker boomed, “As you know, we are scheduled to anchor on the island tomorrow, but heavy storms are being forecasted for that area.  Do not be concerned.  If we can’t spend the day on the island, we will sail around until we find the sunshine.”

I appreciated the Captain’s optimism and have thought of that comment many times since that day.

“We will sail around until we find the sunshine.”

Sometimes it seems our lives are just one big storm after another.  We barely catch our breath after one squall  before the next wave hits.

It can be exhausting.

It’s also easy to forget that somewhere the sun is shining when in our little corner of the world there is nothing but dark clouds, high winds, and lightning strikes all around!

But … our Captain always knows exactly where we are on the radar screen.  He also knows where the sunshine can be found and you can bet, he is sailing us into the sunshine. Just hold on and trust him!

As much as I’d like to believe it’s God’s will that we never encounter storms in life, I know better.  Even storms serve a purpose in the scheme of things.  Our human minds can’t comprehend the vast expanse of the universe.  We’re usually so wrapped up in our efforts to preserve our own interests, we fail to notice what’s happening on a grander scale.

We certainly don’t like to think the “grander scale” is more important than our bout of bad weather. The painful reality is, our little bout of bad weather is part of that grander scale… and so it is important!

I’m hearing the collective “groan” of several of you right now.

“We want the sunshine, we don’t want the storm!”

Don’t abandon ship!

You must keep moving through the storm. You will find the sun waiting on the other side.

God bless!

Becky J. Taylor

July 28, 2010

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Personal Development Coaching for Women

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The Race Is On

July 25, 2010

A couple months ago I mentioned that I was writing a book.  My goal was to have it ready to publish by my birthday, which is now less than three weeks away.  Barring a miracle, that isn’t going to happen.  That’s what “deadlines” are for though, right?  Like rules, they were made to be tested.

My book was off to a good start.  Words continued to pour from my thoughts, through my fingers and onto the computer screen with ease for several weeks.   Then, BOOM!   Suddenly nothing I wrote made sense.   The flow turned into a trickle and then to a complete halt much like gridlock on the interstate leading to Atlanta.  I can see my destination, but I am helpless to get there at this point.

The world, which is my life, has been in a tailspin that’s lasted nearly two years now.  I thought things were beginning to settle out, but they’re not.  If anything, it’s getting worse.  This is possibly because I am so tired of it all.  I feel like running away … quitting … giving up.

Like that is an option.

Which brings me back to the topic at hand … my book.

I’ve chosen “Finishing Strong, A Woman’s Guide to a Race Well Run” as the title.  My inspiration (for lack of a better word) has been the events of my life, and those of so many other women I know. I wanted to do something positive with all the negative circumstances that I and others have been experiencing.  There is a lesson to be gleaned from all this, I just know it!  The trick is to figure out exactly what that lesson is so we can all stop spinning our wheels and move forward again.

It’s occurred to me that virtually everything I’ve been writing in the book is being tested.  Every word of encouragement, every theory I’ve suggested concerning what the “race of life” is all about, all hope I’ve dared to offer has been and continues to be challenged.  I look back over the chapters now and ask myself if I even really believe my own statements.

Here I am, telling women that life is a race of faith.  A race we cannot lose as long as we do not give up.  And here I sit myself, wanting to rip the book to shreds because I am sick and tired of running.  Forget finishing strong!  I just  … want … to … be … FINISHED!

Maybe I just had to come to this point in order to believe what I am trying so hard to convey to everyone else.  Even in my current state of weariness, I still have that underlying, nagging sense of optimism that things surely have to get better from here on in.  But I also have to admit, my thoughts have been leaning more toward the notion that it no law says it has to get better at all.  What if this is truly as good as it gets?

I’m asking myself if I can live with that possibility and frankly, I don’t know right now.

I suppose it’s also possible that I am finally figuring out what faith is all about.  “Faith” isn’t really faith at all if one can see, touch, feel whatever it is they’re hoping for.

Hebrews 11:1 “Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.” (NIV)

Perhaps I should be encouraged.  One thing is for certain, I cannot see anything I’ve been hoping for at this point in time.  Yet, I am still here.

Down for the moment?  Maybe … but I’m still here.

Licking my wounds on the sidelines? Probably … but I’m still here.

Too tired to run anymore? Oh yes! …  but I’m still here.

So, the book may be a little later in coming than I first believed, but I will finish it soon just as surely as I will eventually catch my breath, lace up my track shoes and continue my own pursuit of the prize that awaits at the end of my race.

I’ll see you at the finish line, my friend!  

July 25, 2010

Becky J. Taylor

http://www.beckyjtaylor.com

http://www.boldnewday.com

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Fairchild Blue

July 6, 2010

At our annual family reunion this past weekend, my son Adam commented ” At least 80% of the people here have blue eyes.”

I responded, “Of course they do!  They’re all Fairchild-ren!”

Adam’s comment took me by surprise.  I’ve always told him his eyes were “Fairchild blue” and I thought he understood.  At least he seemed to be listening.

Apparently hearing is not an equal substitute for experiencing something for oneself.

Before this weekend, Adam hadn’t been to a Fairchild reunion for several years.  We moved away from Ohio when he was nine years old and even before that, I hadn’t taken him to many Fairchild get-togethers.

My bad!  Obviously I’ve done my son an injustice by not involving him more in his extended family.

Yes, I’ve told him he is a descendant of the Fairchilds.

I’ve mentioned many times that his tall, lean stature is a Fairchild trait.

Most of all, I’ve often referred to his eye color as being “Fairchild blue.”

But until Adam experienced it for himself, I don’t think he had a full sense of appreciation and belonging as a “Fairchild.”

Now he’s seen it for himself.  His eyes are Fairchild blue.  He is tall and lean like many of my male cousins he saw at the reunion.

Suddenly he feels a deeper family connection than he once believed to be true.  He’s experienced that side of the family’s roots for himself.

He knows more about where he came from, and who he really is than ever before!

Do you know who you are?

(It’s easier to take it for granted than one might think. )

You are a child of God.

You were created in his image.  This means that when God looks at you, he sees himself.

He sees his eyes.

He sees his hands.

When you talk, he hears his voice!

Wow!

Perhaps you don’t believe me.  Maybe you don’t feel much like a child of God.

It’s possible you don’t even act like one of his distant relatives.

If not, it’s probably only because you need reminding of who you truly are.

Reconnect with your roots today.  Take some time to talk to your Father and refresh your relationship with him.

By getting to know him, you’ll gain a better appreciation of who you are than you’ve ever had before.

God bless!

Becky Taylor

July 6,2010

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It’s amazing how little effort it really takes to make a difference in someone’s life.  The most seemingly benign act of kindness can make someone else’s load a little lighter and life a little easier.

Here are some easy ways to make a difference in the lives of others.  Choose one (or all three) each day and put it to use!

Smile

When I worked at the hospital I made it a point to make my patients smile.  It could be a challenge at times, given that they were in the hospital and of course that was not the ideal setting for having a happy face but most of the time it was easy … simply smiling at them when I walked into their room usually sufficed.

Returning a smile is almost an involuntary act in most situations.  Even when people were too sick, or in too much pain to smile back at me, my “plan” still worked about 98 per cent of the time.

Smile at everyone you meet, even strangers.  Make eye contact and show them your pearly whites!  Don’t be surprised when you also begin to feel better with each smile that is returned.

Watch Your Words

Words are powerful.  Your tongue can be a weapon of mass destruction, or it can speak life to everyone around you.  Use it wisely.

The old adage, “If you can’t say something good. don’t say anything at all” is still a wise a piece of advice.  If you don’t believe me, think back to a time when your whole day was ruined by one discouraging word from a friend or family member.

Now think of a time when your day was absolutely made by someone’s words of encouragement.

See what I mean?

Say something nice to someone today.  Tell the cashier at the supermarket you like her haircut.  Tell the kid at the pool what a great swimmer he is, or if someone consistently brightens your day with their words … tell them how much you appreciate it.

Actions Speak Loudly

Remember the “random acts of kindness” craze from a few years back?  People everywhere were doing little things for others without any expectations of recognition or reward.

“Random acts of kindness” was a great idea and probably one we would have done well to keep in practice.

What action can you take today that will make a difference for someone else?

Help the neighbor carry her groceries in from the car.  Hold the door open for a stranger at the store.  Send a “just thinking of you” card to a friend.

You don’t have to do anything complicated.  None of these things necessarily take a lot of time or cost a lot of money, yet they can make the difference between a “bad” day and a “great” day for the recipient!

God bless!

Becky J. Taylor

Bold New Day! LLC

Personal Development Coaching for Women

http://www.boldnewday.com

http://www.beckyjtaylor.com

Follow Your Passion! Pursue Your Purpose!

Become the Person You Know You Were Born to Be!

I have patience for most things.

Then, there are things I am not so patient about.

Take syncing my iPod for example. Of all things,  I have a very difficult time resisting the urge to unplug my iPod from the computer before the little icon that warns me not to disconnect stops flashing.  In those few moments time, it is all I can do to refrain from yanking out the cord and risk losing whatever it is I am hoping to transfer.

I don’t know why I struggle with waiting for something so insignificant, especially when I know good and well that waiting those few minutes could save me a considerable amount of time later if I were to have to start over again.

People, in general tend to be impatient.  This may have been the case in generations past, but I believe it is becoming more so in modern times.  We don’t want to wait on anything, not even for the two cars ahead of us in the drive thru lane to get out of the way so we can get our hands on the fast food we ordered, which took all of forty-five seconds to throw into a sack and become “dinner”.

A few weeks back, I was staring impatiently at my iPod screen with its blaring red “don’t go there” symbol and the “syncing, do not disconnect”  warning when I was reminded that everything that happens to us is specifically designed by God to get us in sync with His plan for our lives.  If we quit before the process is complete, we do ourselves a great injustice.

We don’t learn.

We  don’t grow.

We lose out on something more wonderful than we could ever imagine!

Our time on earth involves a process meant to prepare us for eternity.   We can’t afford to rush that process.  It isn’t always comfortable and things certainly don’t always move as quickly as we’d like.  Sometimes life throws us a curve ball and things turn out a whole lot differently than we expected or wanted.  We can spend so much time wishing situations and circumstances will pass or be different in some way, that we forget to live in the moment. We recoil in pain or disgust and disconnect.

Subsequently, we end up failing to learn everything we’re meant to learn from our situation.

Can a person survive without being in sync with God’s plan?  Of course.  We each have the choice to exercise free will but as human beings we don’t possess the ability to fully appreciate the BIG picture.  We can’t see the end and comprehend our lives as God does, therefore we can’t possibly know what’s truly best for us in the long run.

Tired of waiting?   Hang in there!  Everything is going to be alright.

God is working all things together for your good. He’s syncing you with His perfect will!  Do Not Disconnect!

March 9,2010

Becky J. Taylor

Bold New Day! LLC Personal Development Coaching for Women

http://www.boldnewday.com

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