Personal Reinvention 101

November 28, 2012

Over the course of life most of us will find ourselves at a point (at least once) where we, whether out of necessity or desire, need or want to start over again.  

Wipe the slate clean.  

Declare a “do-over.”  

Take an off-ramp from the path we’re on, and change routes, so we can arrive at a different destination than the one to which we are currently headed.   

Through personal experience and application, I’ve learned it’s quite possible to do so.  This belief is so deeply rooted in my spirit, that I’ve made it a major focus to help others identify and overcome whatever obstacles are hindering them from realizing their dreams.

 “Follow Your Passion! Pursue Your Purpose! Become the Person You Know You Were Born to Be!”  is my basic message to my clients, and for that matter, everyone I meet. 

There is no reason to lead an unfulfilled life.  

There is no glory to be gained by continuing to feel unhappy or stuck in an unhealthy, stagnant situation. 

As my father use to say, “Where there is life, there is hope.”   It’s never too late to start over, change your course, and start taking steps toward becoming the person you know in your heart you were meant to be!

The process doesn’t necessarily happen overnight but it really isn’t all that complicated.  Like any journey, it begins with one step.  The first being, deciding what you want to change.  The next, is to do something, anything, that qualifies as movement (even if a very small one) in the right direction and continue to build on it daily.

Do you want to change?

Would you like to take control of your life?

Are you restless, unsatisfied, or weary, of the way things currently are?

What will you do today to initiate the process of change? 

How will you turn yourself around and head in the right direction?

Think about it.  Come up with a plan.  

And remember, if you get stuck, I am here to help!  

It’s what I do. 

Blessings!

Becky J. Taylor

Bold New Day! LLC

http://www.boldnewday.com

“Follow Your Passion!  Pursue Your Purpose!

Become the Person You Know You Were Born to Be!” 

 

 

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What’s Stopping You?

January 5, 2011

“Go! What’s stopping you?” is the slogan used by a major airline here in the U.S.  While this question is written to inspire people to fly with their particular company, it provides good food for thought for us all.

What’s stopping you from living the life you know you could be living?  What keeps you from chasing (and catching) your dreams?

Fear of failure?

Lack of belief in yourself?

The poor economy?

Most of us could legitimately claim at least one reason for not whole-heartedly pursuing our dreams, but if we allow those things to hold us back, we will eventually be left with nothing but a long list of “what could have been.”

As the airline motto implies, it’s time to leave all excuses behind and start moving forward in the direction of your dreams. Start now!   Instead of focusing on the reasons why you can’t, make a list of all the reasons you should and can, and redirect your thoughts toward those instead.

At first, this may take some conscious effort on your part, but aren’t your dreams worth it?

STOP complaining and rationalizing away your success.

GO in the direction of your dreams!

And don’t give up until you see those dreams come true!

God Bless!

Coach Becky J. Taylor

Bold New Day! LLC

Personal Development Coaching for Women

http://www.boldnewday.com

Follow Your Passion!  Pursue Your Purpose!

Become the Person You Know You Were Born to Be!

 

Coach Becky J. Taylor (Bold New Day! LLC) specializes in Personal Development Coaching for Women, based on Christian principles. She is available  for personal coaching, group coaching, face to face or phone coaching sessions, speaking engagements, women’s events, and workshops anywhere in the continental United States. http://www.boldnewday.com

How Not to Fail in 2011!

December 27, 2010

It’s that time of year again!  Time to think about the New Year and make those dreaded resolutions everyone talks so much about.

Statistics indicate that most resolutions get dropped within a few weeks of being set.  In other words, the odds appear to be stacked against you from the get-go.

Well, let me assure you, that doesn’t have to be the case!  You and your resolutions can be the exception to this unwritten rule.

“How?”

I’m glad you asked!

Here are a few tips to help you succeed in 2011!

1. Keep It Real (But Dream Big!)

Often the reason we fail to meet our goals is that we set them too high.  Our plans look great on paper, but in reality they just don’t work.  It’s easy to become overwhelmed if your goal is realistically unattainable. I believe this is the reason most people drop their resolutions so quickly.  They look at that big mountain of goals they’ve built for themselves … and feel inadequate to conquer it, so they don’t really even try.

Now, I am the last person on earth who will tell you something can’t be done.  Those who know me at all, also know I insist on reaching for the stars … and have every intention of grasping them!  However, reaching some goals takes longer than others. For example, you may want to lose 150 lbs but it might be nearly impossible (not to mention physically unhealthy) for you to lose that much in one year.

Instead of saying “I want to lose 150 lbs in 2011”, say “I want to lose 150 lbs and I will begin by losing 1-2 lbs a week in 2011.”

That doesn’t sound nearly as overwhelming as losing 150 lbs, now does it?

2. Prioritize!

How badly do you want to reach your goals?  Which ones are most important to you?  Sit down and brainstorm.  List everything you want to do/change in the coming year.  Spend some time thinking about everything on your list.  What is most pressing? Which items matter the most in the scheme of things?  Most importantly, “Why do you want to reach each particular goal?Inspiration is critical.  If you don’t have a good “why?” you may not stay motivated enough to push through.

Narrow your list down to no more than five or six goals for the New Year.

3. Be specific!

Say, “I will lose 1-2 lbs a week in 2011”   (I’m using weight loss as an example because that is one of the most common resolutions.)  Apply this approach to each goal on your list.

4. Make a plan!

Don’t just say you will, decide how you will!  Write your plan down and implement it.

“I will  join the gym.”

“I will hire a personal trainer.”

“I will throw all the unhealthy food in my pantry away and replace it with more healthy choices.”

or even, “I will talk to the doctor about weight loss surgery.”

You can wish, hope, and dream as much as you want, but without putting action behind those wishes, hopes, and dreams, chances are nothing will change!

5. Make a friend!

Connect with others who share similar goals. Any task will be made much simpler when you have someone to talk too, laugh with, cry with and of course celebrate with!  Remember, friendship is a two way street … be ready and willing to offer the same support to your friends!

6. Be accountable!

Accountability is key!  Your friend can be very helpful in this area, but you might also want to consider hiring a professional coach to help hold you accountable. You’ll be much more likely to stay focused if you know someone else is going to be keeping track of what you do (or do not) accomplish each week.

7. Be Committed!

Commit to your resolutions!  Focus on them every day.  Don’t give in to temptations to toss them aside.  If you slip and fall, don’t stay down!  Don’t kick yourself in the pants for “failing.” Get back up and start over again … and again … and again if you must!

The only way to fail is to stop trying!

I hope this article encourages you today, and in the days to come.  Here’s to your very successful 2011, from “Bold New Day! LLC”

Be blessed!

Coach Becky J. Taylor

Bold New Day! LLC

Personal Development Coaching for Women

http://www.boldnewday.com

Follow Your Passion!  Pursue Your Purpose!

Become the Person You Know You Were Born to Be!

Coach Becky J. Taylor specializes in Personal Development Coaching for Women, based on Christian principles. She is available for personal coaching, group coaching, face to face or phone coaching sessions, speaking engagements, women’s events, and workshops. http://www.boldnewday.com

 

The Race Is On

July 25, 2010

A couple months ago I mentioned that I was writing a book.  My goal was to have it ready to publish by my birthday, which is now less than three weeks away.  Barring a miracle, that isn’t going to happen.  That’s what “deadlines” are for though, right?  Like rules, they were made to be tested.

My book was off to a good start.  Words continued to pour from my thoughts, through my fingers and onto the computer screen with ease for several weeks.   Then, BOOM!   Suddenly nothing I wrote made sense.   The flow turned into a trickle and then to a complete halt much like gridlock on the interstate leading to Atlanta.  I can see my destination, but I am helpless to get there at this point.

The world, which is my life, has been in a tailspin that’s lasted nearly two years now.  I thought things were beginning to settle out, but they’re not.  If anything, it’s getting worse.  This is possibly because I am so tired of it all.  I feel like running away … quitting … giving up.

Like that is an option.

Which brings me back to the topic at hand … my book.

I’ve chosen “Finishing Strong, A Woman’s Guide to a Race Well Run” as the title.  My inspiration (for lack of a better word) has been the events of my life, and those of so many other women I know. I wanted to do something positive with all the negative circumstances that I and others have been experiencing.  There is a lesson to be gleaned from all this, I just know it!  The trick is to figure out exactly what that lesson is so we can all stop spinning our wheels and move forward again.

It’s occurred to me that virtually everything I’ve been writing in the book is being tested.  Every word of encouragement, every theory I’ve suggested concerning what the “race of life” is all about, all hope I’ve dared to offer has been and continues to be challenged.  I look back over the chapters now and ask myself if I even really believe my own statements.

Here I am, telling women that life is a race of faith.  A race we cannot lose as long as we do not give up.  And here I sit myself, wanting to rip the book to shreds because I am sick and tired of running.  Forget finishing strong!  I just  … want … to … be … FINISHED!

Maybe I just had to come to this point in order to believe what I am trying so hard to convey to everyone else.  Even in my current state of weariness, I still have that underlying, nagging sense of optimism that things surely have to get better from here on in.  But I also have to admit, my thoughts have been leaning more toward the notion that it no law says it has to get better at all.  What if this is truly as good as it gets?

I’m asking myself if I can live with that possibility and frankly, I don’t know right now.

I suppose it’s also possible that I am finally figuring out what faith is all about.  “Faith” isn’t really faith at all if one can see, touch, feel whatever it is they’re hoping for.

Hebrews 11:1 “Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.” (NIV)

Perhaps I should be encouraged.  One thing is for certain, I cannot see anything I’ve been hoping for at this point in time.  Yet, I am still here.

Down for the moment?  Maybe … but I’m still here.

Licking my wounds on the sidelines? Probably … but I’m still here.

Too tired to run anymore? Oh yes! …  but I’m still here.

So, the book may be a little later in coming than I first believed, but I will finish it soon just as surely as I will eventually catch my breath, lace up my track shoes and continue my own pursuit of the prize that awaits at the end of my race.

I’ll see you at the finish line, my friend!  

July 25, 2010

Becky J. Taylor

http://www.beckyjtaylor.com

http://www.boldnewday.com

http://www.beckyjtaylor.webs.com

I grew up in small town Appalachia.  By “small”, I mean there were only about a thousand of us or so and every one of those thousand or so people knew everything about everybody at any given time.

“Gossip” er, I mean “News” was shared with neighbors over the back fence or via party lines. (In case you were born after the 60’s I should explain that “party lines” were common phone lines shared by several different families in the same neighborhood.)

Back in the day, most people never moved far from where they were born.  They lived, worked, died, and were buried within a 10 mile radius of their home town.

While living in such a small town had it’s disadvantages, there were also many advantages to be enjoyed.  We could trust our neighbors and count on them to look out for us.  We never had to lock our doors.  We always knew when someone in our extended family got married, had a baby, fell ill, or lost a job.

We could call on them (or if they shared our party line, just pick up the phone and interrupt their conversations if necessary) any time, night or day and they’d come running.

Personally, I believe people miss the days when they could satisfy their need for human interaction simply by going outside and chatting with the neighbors over the back fence for a while.  When back fences and party lines disappeared, they created a void that people have been trying to fill ever since.

And I believe this explains why social media is so popular today.

Even those who never knew anything about back fences and party lines, or lived anywhere within driving (much less yelling) distance of Grandma and Grandpa; even if we never sat at Aunt Millie’s dinner table and ate oatmeal cookies or enjoyed the sense of family a small town provides, we still enjoy human interaction.  We still need to feel like someone cares about even our most mundane concerns.

Yes, we need each other whether we like to admit it or not.

Social media sites give us access to our distant relatives, elementary school friends and even new friends with the click of a mouse.

What’s more, these sites never close.  Twenty four-seven, there is always someone online with whom to exchange a laugh or share a story. There’s never a lack of videos to laugh at, quotes to make us think, and great gossip, (I’m sorry, I meant “news”) to be found, thanks to the availability of cyber-space.

Social media has made our world very small again, just like it use to be when I was a kid.   No matter how big the city we come from, I’m convinced there is a need for folklore in each of us.  Social media makes it possible for each of us to experience the joys of small town living, even if we’re all alone in the middle of nowhere.

Becky Taylor

July 14,2010

http://www.boldnewday.com

http://www.beckyjtaylor.com

(“Small Town” by John Mellencamp.  Enjoy!)

It’s amazing how little effort it really takes to make a difference in someone’s life.  The most seemingly benign act of kindness can make someone else’s load a little lighter and life a little easier.

Here are some easy ways to make a difference in the lives of others.  Choose one (or all three) each day and put it to use!

Smile

When I worked at the hospital I made it a point to make my patients smile.  It could be a challenge at times, given that they were in the hospital and of course that was not the ideal setting for having a happy face but most of the time it was easy … simply smiling at them when I walked into their room usually sufficed.

Returning a smile is almost an involuntary act in most situations.  Even when people were too sick, or in too much pain to smile back at me, my “plan” still worked about 98 per cent of the time.

Smile at everyone you meet, even strangers.  Make eye contact and show them your pearly whites!  Don’t be surprised when you also begin to feel better with each smile that is returned.

Watch Your Words

Words are powerful.  Your tongue can be a weapon of mass destruction, or it can speak life to everyone around you.  Use it wisely.

The old adage, “If you can’t say something good. don’t say anything at all” is still a wise a piece of advice.  If you don’t believe me, think back to a time when your whole day was ruined by one discouraging word from a friend or family member.

Now think of a time when your day was absolutely made by someone’s words of encouragement.

See what I mean?

Say something nice to someone today.  Tell the cashier at the supermarket you like her haircut.  Tell the kid at the pool what a great swimmer he is, or if someone consistently brightens your day with their words … tell them how much you appreciate it.

Actions Speak Loudly

Remember the “random acts of kindness” craze from a few years back?  People everywhere were doing little things for others without any expectations of recognition or reward.

“Random acts of kindness” was a great idea and probably one we would have done well to keep in practice.

What action can you take today that will make a difference for someone else?

Help the neighbor carry her groceries in from the car.  Hold the door open for a stranger at the store.  Send a “just thinking of you” card to a friend.

You don’t have to do anything complicated.  None of these things necessarily take a lot of time or cost a lot of money, yet they can make the difference between a “bad” day and a “great” day for the recipient!

God bless!

Becky J. Taylor

Bold New Day! LLC

Personal Development Coaching for Women

http://www.boldnewday.com

http://www.beckyjtaylor.com

Follow Your Passion! Pursue Your Purpose!

Become the Person You Know You Were Born to Be!

Brown ChairAnd old brown leather chair and it’s matching ottoman occupy one corner of our keeping room.  The chair has never been among my favorite pieces of furniture.  It’s just too big and bulky to suit my decorating preferences.  In truth, no one usually even sits in the chair at all unless we happen to have company.  Surprisingly enough, most of our visitors actually like the chair and have commented on it’s comfort.

More often than not, I use the chair for another purpose altogether.  Over the years it has become a laundry center where I sort, fold and store our clothing fresh from the dryer.  I’m almost ashamed to admit that approximately four days out of each week, the chair is buried in stacks of clothing awaiting transfer to their proper destinations.  Because I use the chair to hold the laundry, it is rendered unavailable for it’s intended purpose, which is of course to be a place for people to sit!

The chair functions just fine as a laundry center and I suppose I could continue using it in that manner forever.  It really is a waste of a good piece of furniture though.  A plain old $5.00  plastic laundry basket would be a much more practical and useful container for our clothing.

Some people live their entire lives in much the same way.  They were created for something specific, yet they clutter their souls and surroundings with so many other things that their original purpose stays hidden, or even worse, lost altogether.

Unlike a piece of furniture, which has no knowledge of why it is on the earth, people tend to be unsatisfied unless they are doing what they were meant to do.  They may function just fine in whatever ulterior role they choose , but most of the time they will have a nagging feeling, a sense of restlessness that tells them something is amiss.  They will not be fully content until they are walking in the calling for which they were born.

God  has a purpose for your life.  The Bible says He knew you before you were formed in your mother’s womb.  He created you and placed your spirit in a human body for a specific purpose.  A purpose so unique that no one else can fulfill it!

Now that should make you feel pretty special!  The Creator of the universe not only knows who you are, He has a specific plan for you! (Oh! And according to Jeremiah 29:11-13, that plan is for your good!)

Of course, it’s up to you to decide whether or not you will carry out your true purpose, and God loves you no matter what you choose.   But imagine how He must feel when He see His children being less than He designed them to be!

Are you sincerely happy with the way you are living, or are you merely functioning day to day?  Are you doing what you believe you should do, or are you simply doing what’s easiest or most convenient?  Does the idea of pursuing your true calling seem like too much “work”?   Following the path you were meant to follow may not necessarily be easy, but the rewards are so much worth the effort!

It’s not too late!  Take that first step in the right direction today!

Follow your Passion!  Pursue your Purpose!

Become the Person You Know You Were Born To Be!

Philip, enjoying the big brown chair as it was meant to be used!

Philip, enjoying the big brown chair as it was meant to be used!

Becky J. Taylor

http://www.boldnewday.com