What’s Stopping You?

January 5, 2011

“Go! What’s stopping you?” is the slogan used by a major airline here in the U.S.  While this question is written to inspire people to fly with their particular company, it provides good food for thought for us all.

What’s stopping you from living the life you know you could be living?  What keeps you from chasing (and catching) your dreams?

Fear of failure?

Lack of belief in yourself?

The poor economy?

Most of us could legitimately claim at least one reason for not whole-heartedly pursuing our dreams, but if we allow those things to hold us back, we will eventually be left with nothing but a long list of “what could have been.”

As the airline motto implies, it’s time to leave all excuses behind and start moving forward in the direction of your dreams. Start now!   Instead of focusing on the reasons why you can’t, make a list of all the reasons you should and can, and redirect your thoughts toward those instead.

At first, this may take some conscious effort on your part, but aren’t your dreams worth it?

STOP complaining and rationalizing away your success.

GO in the direction of your dreams!

And don’t give up until you see those dreams come true!

God Bless!

Coach Becky J. Taylor

Bold New Day! LLC

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Up From the Dark

October 13, 2010

Like most, I’ve been following the story of the Chilean miners who’ve been trapped underground for two months and are now in the process of being rescued.   Their survival is nothing short of a miracle, much less the fact they’re emerging looking healthy and strong!

Not only has the rescue operation caught the attention of the miner’s families; it’s caused the whole world to pause and take notice. Surely an event of such proportions bears a message intended for more than just those directly involved.

I believe the successful rescue of the miners is being sent as encouragement to us all.

Many have been experiencing a different kind of dark entrapment.  This has been going on for days, weeks, months, or even years.

Hold on.

The darkness will not last forever.

No matter how dire your circumstances seem.  You will not die.  You will survive.  You will emerge from the pit alive and strong!

The message that resonates in my spirit, begging to be shared, is this:

“Help is on the way.  It may not arrive today or tomorrow but it is coming! You will soon be free again.”

Just as a similar message sent to the trapped miners several weeks ago gave them hope this is being sent to instill hope in your spirit as well.  Take it in.  Be encouraged, inspired, and empowered.

You too, will soon be coming out of the dark!

Blessings!

Coach Becky J. Taylor

Bold New Day, LLC – Life Coaching for Women

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Sailing Into Sunshine

July 28, 2010

While enjoying a Caribbean cruise a few years back, our family was particularly looking forward to spending a day on one of the islands owned by the cruise line, when the Captain made an announcement.

“This is your Captain speaking” the voice over the loud speaker boomed, “As you know, we are scheduled to anchor on the island tomorrow, but heavy storms are being forecasted for that area.  Do not be concerned.  If we can’t spend the day on the island, we will sail around until we find the sunshine.”

I appreciated the Captain’s optimism and have thought of that comment many times since that day.

“We will sail around until we find the sunshine.”

Sometimes it seems our lives are just one big storm after another.  We barely catch our breath after one squall  before the next wave hits.

It can be exhausting.

It’s also easy to forget that somewhere the sun is shining when in our little corner of the world there is nothing but dark clouds, high winds, and lightning strikes all around!

But … our Captain always knows exactly where we are on the radar screen.  He also knows where the sunshine can be found and you can bet, he is sailing us into the sunshine. Just hold on and trust him!

As much as I’d like to believe it’s God’s will that we never encounter storms in life, I know better.  Even storms serve a purpose in the scheme of things.  Our human minds can’t comprehend the vast expanse of the universe.  We’re usually so wrapped up in our efforts to preserve our own interests, we fail to notice what’s happening on a grander scale.

We certainly don’t like to think the “grander scale” is more important than our bout of bad weather. The painful reality is, our little bout of bad weather is part of that grander scale… and so it is important!

I’m hearing the collective “groan” of several of you right now.

“We want the sunshine, we don’t want the storm!”

Don’t abandon ship!

You must keep moving through the storm. You will find the sun waiting on the other side.

God bless!

Becky J. Taylor

July 28, 2010

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The Race Is On

July 25, 2010

A couple months ago I mentioned that I was writing a book.  My goal was to have it ready to publish by my birthday, which is now less than three weeks away.  Barring a miracle, that isn’t going to happen.  That’s what “deadlines” are for though, right?  Like rules, they were made to be tested.

My book was off to a good start.  Words continued to pour from my thoughts, through my fingers and onto the computer screen with ease for several weeks.   Then, BOOM!   Suddenly nothing I wrote made sense.   The flow turned into a trickle and then to a complete halt much like gridlock on the interstate leading to Atlanta.  I can see my destination, but I am helpless to get there at this point.

The world, which is my life, has been in a tailspin that’s lasted nearly two years now.  I thought things were beginning to settle out, but they’re not.  If anything, it’s getting worse.  This is possibly because I am so tired of it all.  I feel like running away … quitting … giving up.

Like that is an option.

Which brings me back to the topic at hand … my book.

I’ve chosen “Finishing Strong, A Woman’s Guide to a Race Well Run” as the title.  My inspiration (for lack of a better word) has been the events of my life, and those of so many other women I know. I wanted to do something positive with all the negative circumstances that I and others have been experiencing.  There is a lesson to be gleaned from all this, I just know it!  The trick is to figure out exactly what that lesson is so we can all stop spinning our wheels and move forward again.

It’s occurred to me that virtually everything I’ve been writing in the book is being tested.  Every word of encouragement, every theory I’ve suggested concerning what the “race of life” is all about, all hope I’ve dared to offer has been and continues to be challenged.  I look back over the chapters now and ask myself if I even really believe my own statements.

Here I am, telling women that life is a race of faith.  A race we cannot lose as long as we do not give up.  And here I sit myself, wanting to rip the book to shreds because I am sick and tired of running.  Forget finishing strong!  I just  … want … to … be … FINISHED!

Maybe I just had to come to this point in order to believe what I am trying so hard to convey to everyone else.  Even in my current state of weariness, I still have that underlying, nagging sense of optimism that things surely have to get better from here on in.  But I also have to admit, my thoughts have been leaning more toward the notion that it no law says it has to get better at all.  What if this is truly as good as it gets?

I’m asking myself if I can live with that possibility and frankly, I don’t know right now.

I suppose it’s also possible that I am finally figuring out what faith is all about.  “Faith” isn’t really faith at all if one can see, touch, feel whatever it is they’re hoping for.

Hebrews 11:1 “Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.” (NIV)

Perhaps I should be encouraged.  One thing is for certain, I cannot see anything I’ve been hoping for at this point in time.  Yet, I am still here.

Down for the moment?  Maybe … but I’m still here.

Licking my wounds on the sidelines? Probably … but I’m still here.

Too tired to run anymore? Oh yes! …  but I’m still here.

So, the book may be a little later in coming than I first believed, but I will finish it soon just as surely as I will eventually catch my breath, lace up my track shoes and continue my own pursuit of the prize that awaits at the end of my race.

I’ll see you at the finish line, my friend!  

July 25, 2010

Becky J. Taylor

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State of Discontent

May 5, 2010

I’m in a place I’m not very fond of right now.  It’s a state of discontent.

Perhaps the reason I feel uncomfortable with my current status is because of what Paul wrote in Philippians 4:12.

“12I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.” (NIV)

My religious upbringing tells me I am sinning because right now I am feeling anything but content.

My faith tells me differently.

I am not the Apostle Paul.  I’m just Becky.  A middle aged mother, grandmother and wife who at the moment doesn’t feel she is doing a particularly good job of fulfilling any of those roles … not to mention all the other things I thought I would be doing by this time in my life.

My soul is more than ready for some kind of sign that things are about to change for the better.  God doesn’t seem to have much to say to me right now, yet I need to hear from Him more than ever before.

Understand this: I don’t need pumped up.  I don’t need scolding.

No sermons, please!  I’ve heard them all.  I know them by heart.

I do not like “hype”. I can spot it from a mile away.

I need something real and I need it real soon!

Last week I was in a restaurant when I overheard a conversation between a mother and her son.  The boy looked to be about eight years old.  He was quite plump and was in the process of explaining to the woman that he’d been unable to participate in gym class that day.  He told her that he stood to the side instead, and “moved his arms and legs up and down” while the other children played a game of basketball.

His mother responded, “That’s good! You don’t have to compete with the others.  I’ll be happy as long as you keep moving, even if you’re only marching in place.”

I suppose that’s what I feel like I’m doing; moving, but not necessarily going anywhere.  I’m going through the motions while I wait for further instructions.

But I am moving none-the-less.  Surely that counts for something.

I’ve been questioning this a lot lately.  It’s been so long since anything has gone as I believe it should, so  I’ve started to entertain the idea that maybe this is the new normal.  Perhaps this is how it’s going to be for the rest of my life.

That caused a protest to arise within my spirit.   I will not, can not stay here!  This isn’t where I belong.  The last thing I intend to do is give up and make it my permanent home.

So maybe, just maybe I am content on some level.

Content in the understanding that this too shall pass.

In the meantime, I’ll keep doing my part by making every effort I can to stay in motion.  Even though those efforts appear to be taking me nowhere at all.

Becky Taylor

3/5/2010

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I have patience for most things.

Then, there are things I am not so patient about.

Take syncing my iPod for example. Of all things,  I have a very difficult time resisting the urge to unplug my iPod from the computer before the little icon that warns me not to disconnect stops flashing.  In those few moments time, it is all I can do to refrain from yanking out the cord and risk losing whatever it is I am hoping to transfer.

I don’t know why I struggle with waiting for something so insignificant, especially when I know good and well that waiting those few minutes could save me a considerable amount of time later if I were to have to start over again.

People, in general tend to be impatient.  This may have been the case in generations past, but I believe it is becoming more so in modern times.  We don’t want to wait on anything, not even for the two cars ahead of us in the drive thru lane to get out of the way so we can get our hands on the fast food we ordered, which took all of forty-five seconds to throw into a sack and become “dinner”.

A few weeks back, I was staring impatiently at my iPod screen with its blaring red “don’t go there” symbol and the “syncing, do not disconnect”  warning when I was reminded that everything that happens to us is specifically designed by God to get us in sync with His plan for our lives.  If we quit before the process is complete, we do ourselves a great injustice.

We don’t learn.

We  don’t grow.

We lose out on something more wonderful than we could ever imagine!

Our time on earth involves a process meant to prepare us for eternity.   We can’t afford to rush that process.  It isn’t always comfortable and things certainly don’t always move as quickly as we’d like.  Sometimes life throws us a curve ball and things turn out a whole lot differently than we expected or wanted.  We can spend so much time wishing situations and circumstances will pass or be different in some way, that we forget to live in the moment. We recoil in pain or disgust and disconnect.

Subsequently, we end up failing to learn everything we’re meant to learn from our situation.

Can a person survive without being in sync with God’s plan?  Of course.  We each have the choice to exercise free will but as human beings we don’t possess the ability to fully appreciate the BIG picture.  We can’t see the end and comprehend our lives as God does, therefore we can’t possibly know what’s truly best for us in the long run.

Tired of waiting?   Hang in there!  Everything is going to be alright.

God is working all things together for your good. He’s syncing you with His perfect will!  Do Not Disconnect!

March 9,2010

Becky J. Taylor

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Stress Stoppers, Pt. II

November 11, 2009

Stress Stoppers, Pt. II

More Ideas For Controlling Stress

(Continued from November 3rd Blog Entry)


6. Be A Good Neighbor!
Focusing on someone else’s needs can help to get your mind off your own problems for a while.

Tip: Visit a shut-in.  If there is an elderly person who lives alone in your neighborhood, buy an inexpensive bouquet of flowers for them and stop by for a visit.  No doubt, you will make their day (and probably yours too.)

Volunteer for a local charity of your choice.  Serve hot meals to the homeless, spend some time helping out at the local animal shelter, or read books to the kindergarten class at school.   There are numerous opportunities available to brighten someone else’s day.  If you have trouble locating an opportunity, check with your church.  They’ll likely be able to point you in the direction of someone in need of a helping hand.

7. Put That Adrenaline to Good Use!

Does stress have you feeling like you could crawl out of your own skin?   Are you overwhelmed with nervous energy, or feelings of anger toward your situation?  Use that negative energy to attain a positive goal.  Tackle a task you’ve been avoiding, such as cleaning out that closet or garage.
Tip: Gather unwanted items together and organize a yard sale, or donate them to a thrift store or homeless shelter.

8. Breathe In, Breathe Out!

If you’ve ever given birth, chances are you were taught some form of breathing techniques to help your body relax during contractions.   Similar exercises can also aid in regaining control of your body’s reaction to more familiar stress.  You can do this anywhere, even at your desk amid all the chaos of the workplace.

Tip: Relax your shoulders and neck.  Breath in slowly through your nose for a count of seven, then exhale through your mouth for a count of eleven. Repeat this several times over. It will slow down your racing heart and lower your blood pressure.  As a result, you will feel more calm and in control of your situation.

9. Take It Outside!

It helps to simply remove yourself from the stressful environment, even if only for a few moments.  Take a brisk walk, or just step outside into the sunshine.  A brief change  of scenery will boost your mood and help clear your mind.

Tip: When the weather is nice, take your breaks and lunch outside.  You’ll feel like you’re miles away from the office.  If for some reason you can’t go outdoors,  make it a point to leave your work area for a few minutes several times a day.  You may be surprised at the difference it makes.

10. Reward yourself!

During times of stress, you may begin to feel you have nothing to look forward to.   That can lead to potentially dangerous complications, such as depression.  Promise yourself you are going to indulge in a special activity you enjoy, and set a date or time to do it.  Don’t cancel your plans, it’s important to keep this promise to yourself.  Reminding yourself that you’re going to have a break in your stressful routine can help considerably!

Tip: Take yourself to dinner at your favorite restaurant or buy yourself that great pair of shoes you’ve been dying to have. (As long as you know that spending a little extra money won’t add to your stress afterward.)   Treat yourself  to an ice cream cone, a day at the lake, an afternoon at the park, or your favorite movie.   Anything goes as long as it’s something special you can feel excited about and look forward to.

BONUS:

11. Keep The Faith!

Prayer, or talking to God is a great form of stress relief for those who believe.  It helps to know there is a Supreme being, one who is all-knowing and powerful, yet still cares deeply about our individual needs.  This knowledge ultimately gives us hope and the strength to carry on during times of stress.  In fact, studies have shown that people with deep religious beliefs are better able to cope with stress than their counterparts who do not hold any particular religious beliefs.

Tip: Talk to God.  You don’t need a script.  There are no “magic” words or prayers you need to memorize in order to get His attention.  Just talk to Him as if He was sitting right beside you (because He actually is!)  He is listening and He cares!

I leave you with this scripture from Philippians 4:6.  “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your request to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus”

God bless!

Becky Taylor

11/11/09